One
day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class
was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he
was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would
anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd."
I
had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends
tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.
As
I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran
at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so
he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land
in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this
terrible sadness in his eyes.
My
heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled
around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I
handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are jerks. They really
should get lives." He looked at me and said, "Hey hanks!"
There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles that
showed real gratitude.
I
helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it
turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen
him before. He said he had gone to private school before now.
I
would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked
all the way home, and I carried some of his books. He turned out to
be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little football
with my friends. He said yes. We hung out all weekend and the more
I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the
same of him.
Monday
morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again.
I stopped him and said, "Boy, you are gonna really build some
serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed
and handed me half the books.
Over
the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were
seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown,
and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that
the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and
I was going for business on a football scholarship.
Kyle
was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being
a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation.
I
was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation
day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really
found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked
good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved
him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous.
Today
was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech.
So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll
be great!" He looked at me with one of those looks (the really
grateful one) and smiled. "Thanks," he said.
As
he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. "Graduation
is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough
years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but
mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend
to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell
you a story."
I
just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the
first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.
He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't
have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard
at me and gave me a little smile.
"Thankfully,
I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable."
I
heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy
told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and Dad looking
at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment
did I realize its depth.
Never
underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you
can change a person's life. For better or for worse.